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Every student struggles at some point, even if it doesn’t show. Sharing your concerns with a teacher opens the door to guidance and care. You don’t have to carry your challenges alone.

As a school counsellor, one of the most common things students tell me is, “I need help, but I don’t know how to tell my teacher.” If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Asking for help can feel scary, awkward, or even embarrassing—but it’s also one of the most important skills you can learn in school.

First, remember this: teachers want you to succeed. When you ask for help, you’re not bothering them—you’re giving them the chance to support you. Teachers can’t read minds, so if something is confusing, overwhelming, or affecting your learning, it’s okay to speak up.

Start by figuring out what kind of help you need. Is it trouble understanding a lesson? Feeling stressed about deadlines? Struggling to focus because of something happening outside school? You don’t need the perfect words. Even saying, “I’m having a hard time and I’m not sure why,” is enough to begin the conversation.

Choose a comfortable way to share. Some students prefer talking after class, during office hours, or asking for a private meeting. Others feel safer writing an email or note first. Use “I” statements, like “I’m struggling to keep up with homework” or “I feel anxious during tests.” This keeps the focus on your experience rather than blaming yourself or anyone else.

It’s also okay to ask a trusted adult—like a counsellor, homeroom teacher, or mentor—to help you talk to another teacher. You don’t have to do this alone.

Finally, be kind to yourself. Needing help does not mean you’re weak or failing. It means you’re human and learning how to take care of yourself. When students learn to share their needs, they build confidence, resilience, and stronger connections with teachers. And those skills will help you far beyond the classroom.